Hey everyone! The new health thing has been really working wonders for me–lost several pounds off the sides! So other than keeping my body healthy, I was thinking of other ways to be healthy throughout every aspect of my being. Now, don’t worry I’m not going to get all religious and preachy. That’s so not my style.
Instead, I’ve been thinking about ways to clean out the gunk in my emotional baggage case. I don’t know about you guys but I have several rather hefty parcels of repression or knots of frustration in my care and I decided that I didn’t want to carry it any more. Mostly, I’m talking about negativity–whether in thoughts, spoken words, or in actions.
The world has been pretty angry as of late. State of politics, mostly. Each side seemingly angrier than the other. Each side doing or saying something that ultimately angers the other even more. So where does it end?
When you want someone to hear you out, you don’t belittle or insult them. That’s kind of stabbing away and chipping away at some of the foundation of a bridge before you cross it. That kids, is not safe–so don’t do it. It’s ultimately quite counter intuitive. Anyone would be less inclined to hear you out if they think you’re making fun of them.
It’s all about meeting each other in the middle. Hurling insults at each other never really solves anything. You may think that you’re making yourself feel better when calling people names but when you throw something negative out–it ultimately comes back at you. Your energy gets spent more and other people’s negativity will be headed your way. There is no such thing as getting to speak your mind with no consequences.
It’s okay to speak your mind–just remember that you have to deal with the aftermath. You have to be accountable for what you say. You don’t get to release all that and expect it to not rebound off of people. That’s what I think a lot of us forget.
It’s not just about the message you want to say. It’s how you say it. For example:
Statement A: I think today is a lovely day and it would be great if you agreed with me.
Statement B: You’re an idiot if you don’t think that today is lovely because I certainly think it’s great.
While each has the same goal, the way it’ll be received will be world’s apart. It takes practice and a conscious decision to not be negative nowadays. I can attest to that. It’s been so easy to be toxic online particularly when everyone does it and there seems to be pretty little consequence to it.
However, there is a cost that is being paid. The sad thing is that most of us don’t even realize that we’re paying for it. The more negative you allow yourself to come, the more burden you place on yourself and those around you. I realized that I let myself become quite negative over the years and I’m making a conscious decision to put an end to it.
I don’t want to feed that side of me any longer. It would be pretty great if more people decided to do that as well.